External attachment to someone... a fault?

I was conversing with my friend today(18th Sep)...it was obviously night!...literally listening to him! Felt like sharing few thoughts with his experience. It also happened to be one of my close one's birthday today!!....I did start writing blog because of that person.

What happens when you really love and care for someone, and in turn you are just like external attachment to their life!!.....It doesn't make any difference to them when you go far....in short they won't miss you! ....Does it mean other person is bad??

For that person you are one among long list of people who are good to him/her. He/She won't hate you but, will behave in a good manner whenever u come across them. Sometimes they behave in a strange manner with you thinking that others may misunderstand the relationship! They are not much worried about exploring what actually going on your mind. Because they have lot of other things to think about them self and their dear ones.

When you ask "Does these things really hurt you?" Well, answer is YES! It also doesn't mean that person don't care..they may like to care but, the fear of external opinions and importantly fear of YOU misunderstanding that! It boils up to what kind of trust that person has on you.

Now the Trust won't come on anybody just like that. You may be trustworthy but, for other person to realise that!!...Well, everything depends on that person.

Person caring for you doesn't mean that he/she has to be there for you all the time.... but caring for little little simple things like whenever you are down, asking what happened and listening to the problem relieves the pain in you. Now think instead that person asks you something and you say nothing, no problem....person just moves out of the situation as he/she has other things to deal with! How do you feel ?

Is it a bad nature or fault? Not at all!.. it is purely personal choice of other person. It is his/her life and they do whatever they think is right.

All you can do is to feel better that at least you are not hurting the other person. And that gives you sense of accomplishment. So you WIN..not against anybody but with your inner self.